Venus vs. Mars

I like to Facebook. I like to Blog. I like to Twitter. I've noticed a disturbing trend: there are a lot of profile names like: MomTo2Boys, AtlantaMommy, DesperateHousewife, MommyLikesWine, SassyMama, MyThreeSons, SouthernMama, etc. Very rarely do you see men on social networks with names like: ZachsDaddy, ProudPapa, or LifeWithDaughters, etc. Most men have usernames that are sports-related (i.e., NYJetsFan, YankeesRule, ROLLtideROLL) or an alleged sexual prowess (i.e., Big Daddy, ChickMagnet, etc.). Men seem to have no problem maintaining their identities. And why should they? They keep their names when they get married, their bodies don't betray them after they've had kids and they don't give up their careers when they've had a family.

So why do women do this? Have we lost our identities and can only gain respect by touting the many hats we wear? When you met a woman for the first time and ask her about herself, she usually responds with "Well, I've been married for 14 years and we have 2 daughters -- Emily (10) and Hannah (7)." When you ask a man about himself he usually says "I'm an accountant" or something along those lines.

I'm a lot of things to a lot of people -- daughter, wife, mother, neighbor, friend, etc. I am all those things but that's not all I am. Don't get me wrong. I love my husband, I love my kids but I will hopefully also have a life when my girls go off to college.